No, people who are vain, have a lot of self-hatred covered over by a layer of "I'm better then you". But this is different. It isn't wrong to put yourself on the top of that list, ahead of family and friends, your pets or shrimp. If you don't, who the hell is going to love them and take care of them in the fierce, amazing way that only you can, when you're empty, depleted and have nothing left to give. We say, "oh I take care of myself, I have self care Sunday" (I said that in a stereotypical high pitched women voice.) Wow!! One day (which is probably really a couple hours of that day) out of 7 days, if you really even do commit to doing self care once a week. Regardless, that isn't quite what I mean, I am digging beyond "self care". What I am asking you to do, is really love yourself. A love like-look in the mirror at your body, hair, into your own eyes and tell yourself how amazing you really are-kind of love. How beautiful your hair shines, how wonderful and amazing your body is for carrying your soul around everyday even though you treat that body like shit sometimes. How gorgeous your eyes really are and how much love you see in them.
Why? Why do you treat yourself like this? What would you say if you heard your best friend or your kid talking to themselves like that? How is that kind of talk actually serving you? It is serving you by making you feel sad and if you think that sadness doesn't come out in your daily life, then you are mistaken. That moment you snap at the ones you love the most. When you start pushing the people around you away. You may even start coping or soothing yourself in negative ways such as drinking, self harm, eating disorders, sex, mindless shopping...whatever it takes to make you feel good for a short period. I know, I have done it for many years. All the love in our lives begins with us. (read that again) When you really love yourself, you cannot hurt yourself, and you cannot hurt another person. Trust me when I say, if you don't start loving yourself first, you can't really love the ones that matter to you. So please look in that mirror and realize you are worthy, except and love yourself exactly as you are, right here and now. I love myself, and because of that I can love my kids/husband/friends (you know, people), the animals in my life, home, and my career. 
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 Phoenix Mind and Body Wellness held the first Sober Sociable. The purpose of this live Facebook party is to invite women to share their businesses and their stories. I believe that we all have a story that will touch the lives of other women who just might need the message those stories hold to move forward in their lives. My goal is to share share and keep sharing and healing and becoming stronger together. Why Sober Sociable? Well part of my story is that I am have been sober for over 2 years and clean for over one year. I want to prove that you can still be sociable and sober and have a great time and a great life with great people!!! Last week I was very honored to share this space Christine Hiltz, owner of The Cosmic Hippie Boutique. She not only has built a beautiful business, but she is building a beautiful life. She explained the birth and growing pains of the Cosmic Hippie. Educated us on the links of breast cancer and Alzheimer's disease to using Anti-perspirants and gave us options for natural deodorants. You can find this amazing little shop on Instagram or Facebook. https://www.facebook.com/cosmichippieboutique/?ref=page_internal She blessed us with her story and how she lives from her heart. At 48 she is taking life by the lady balls and started surfing, loves to travel and how she pushes away the self doubt/imposter syndrome when it creeps in. I think that is something we can all relate to! If you missed this episode and you identify as female, you can find it here on our Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/debbie.silver.3/videos/10156872562947242 If you would like to have your own Sober summer drinks you can find 12 delicious recipes by signing up for my newsletter! Some of the beautiful products of The Cosmic Hippie Boutique
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